Monthly Archives: October 2017

Self-Compassion, and Compassion for Ourselves

I firmly believe it starts by calling attention to our own negative cognition’s about ourselves. We need to become accountable for our thoughts, judgments, and biases.

“First, to have compassion for others you must notice that they are suffering. If you ignore that homeless person on the street, you can’t feel compassion for how difficult his or her experience is. Second, compassion involves feeling moved by others’ suffering so that your heart responds to their pain (the word compassion literally means to “suffer with”). When this occurs, you feel warmth, caring, and the desire to help the suffering person in some way. Having compassion also means that you offer understanding and kindness to others when they fail or make mistakes, rather than judging them harshly. Finally, when you feel compassion for another (rather than mere pity), it means that you realize that suffering, failure, and imperfection is part of the shared human experience. “- Dr. Kristin Neff

Walking forward today—what can you do to address compassion within yourself?

An Inside Look at Grief…

“Time heals all wounds”– this saying challenges me. I neither agree or disagree with it. I believe it has value with certain wounds but not in others. Time does not heal grief. Time changes it. Time allows you to process it (with hard work and effort). 

Is not a celebration of end of life. It is the beginning of starting something new. The new way you carry that person with you, new way you hold their strength, a new way of holding their beauty.

Death is often looked to as the completion to ones story, it more than that. I look at death as a heart-breaking event that changes your story and path. Grief is this change— it’s adapting how you look at death and processing it.
This is not not an easy thing to accomplish. It takes time, support, and openness.