Important for us to validate our certain circumstance regardless of how ‘uncomfortable-painful’ or ‘comfortable-joyful’ that specific moment brings. Emotions help us to adapt to the world surrounding us, and how we process what is certainly going on (externally or internally).
Validation isn’t looking to fix the circumstance. It’s to help us understand how we are feeling which is needed in this moment. Getting curious about the emotion is a helpful first approach. Curiosity develops connection. Judgment develops disconnection.
Giving ourselves a narrative “this is hard, this isn’t supposed to be easy, this is exciting and uneasy, etc” allows us to understand the emotion in a functional way.